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At WildHearts, we understand that buying a new sex toy can be an overwhelming experience. With so many different choices, how do you know where to start? When you come into our store, we do everything we can to help you pick the toy that's right for you, and we don't see why our website should be any different. This guide is designed to help you pick out all the elements you want in a toy: vibrator or dildo? Battery or Electric? This guide will walk you through the different types of products we offer and the different materials they come in. Looking for a harness? We explain its popular forms as well. You can read it top-to-bottom or skip to the sections that interest you. At the bottom you'll find links to other articles by WildHearts that you may find helpful. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact us!

Help! How Do I Choose a Toy?

Vibrators:

The first vibrators were heavy electric machines made for doctors to use to cure women's “hysteria”. By the 1930s they had become a home novelty, and today they come in an enormous array of styles. Here's a quick rundown on the options:

  • Electric vs. Battery:
    Electric vibrators (like the classic Hitachi Magic Wand) plug into an outlet. Their incredibly intense vibrations have made many women loyal to the electric vibrator. Most have two settings with two different frequencies of vibration. Battery operated vibes, on the other hand, usually have graduated settings, giving you a lot more control over the strength of the vibration. There are many, many more varieties of battery operated vibrators, but they aren't as strong as their electric counterparts. Because of the wide variety of battery-operated vibrators, most of the information in the rest of this section describes them rather than electric vibes.
  • Soft vs. Hard:
    Soft vibrators have a jelly rubber or silicone sheath surrounding the motor's casing. These vibes have a little extra give when inserted and are softer to the touch. Hard vibrators are what many women imagine when they think of a vibrator: hard plastic and vaguely rocket-shaped, these vibrators transmit vibration very well. Although hard plastic vibes generally look like they're meant for insertion, they also make great clitoral stimulators. For more information about product materials, see What Are My Toys Made Of below.
  • Clitoral Stimulators:
    For most women, clitoral stimulation is the main factor leading to orgasm. Any vibrator can be held against the clitoris, regardless of how it was intended to be used, but a certain class of vibrators are made for that exact purpose. Clitoral stimulators often feature a soft sheath covering the vibrating bullet with nubs (or in some cases, bunny-ears) that flicker against the clitoris. If that alone doesn't make you want one, many clitoral stimulators pulsate. Their optional rolling, pulsing vibrations mimic the contractions of orgasm, making them a favorite of many women and a great option for pre-orgasmic women.
  • G-Spotters:
    G-spot vibrators press and vibrate against (you guessed it) the g-spot, a bundle of nerves an inch or so inside the vagina. Not all women find g-spot vibration that exciting, but many women love it. When combined with clitoral stimulation, it can lead to some explosive orgasms. If you generally like g-spot play, a g-spot vibrator is especially worth trying.
  • Dual Action Vibrators:
    Want the best of both worlds? Dual action vibrators (like the infamous Rabbit Habit) have a swirling shaft for internal stimulation and a clitoral stimulator all in one unit! They have dual controls, so you can set shaft on low and turn the clitoral stimulator up as much as you want (or vice versa). Several have beads embedded in the shaft which spin for extra sensation inside and at the nerve-packed entrance to the vagina, and a few have a reverse function which makes the beads spin back and forth!

Dildos:

A dildo is generally meant for vaginal or anal insertion. A well-chosen dildo imparts a sense of fullness that many women love, as well as offering something for the vaginal muscles to contract against during orgasm. A dildo can be hand-held, but the fact that you can attach a dildo to a harness is one reason they're so popular. After all, imagine the things your hands can do if they're not controlling your toy! Most dildos don't vibrate, but a few do: check out Echo, Techno, and the double-ended Feeldoe.

It is important to consider the length and girth you're looking for when shopping for a dildo. Most of our product descriptions include measurements. To make it easier we often also include a finger-estimate. Mistress, for example, is perfect for the two-finger woman.

If you plan on using your dildo with an interchangeable-ring harness, it's also important to know the width of the base. Generally speaking, a 1.75” or 2” ring will comfortably hold most dildos. When a smaller ring would work better for a given product, you'll find that in the product description.

Anal Toys:

The anus and the area around it are packed with nerve endings, meaning it can be a very pleasurable erotic area for many people. There are a few key things to remember about anal toys. First, if you're a beginner, start small and work your way up. Certain toys allow for working your way up without having to buy a new toy for every stage. Second, lubrication is especially important for anal play. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating and the sensitive tissue is prone to tiny cuts and tears if too much friction is introduced. We highly recommend a lubricant made specifcally for anal sex such as SEX GREASE, wich incorperates Vitamen E, Aloe, Chamomile and other herbs that help repair the colon. Lastly, never use a toy anally unless it has a wide enough flared base to keep it from disappearing inside. You don't want to have to make that trip to the emergency room!

There are four main kinds of anal toys. Plugs are intended to go in and stay in during sex or masturbation; they provide a pleasurable stretching and give the muscles something to resist against. Dildos can be worn in a harness or used hand-held, and the friction created by their in-and-out motion makes them a very popular choice for anal toys. Anal beads are usually jelly rubber or silicone molded beads that are graduated in size with the largest beads on the end of the toy with the handle. They are meant to be introduced slowly into the anus, although much of the fun comes from removing them quickly! Finally there are vibrating anal toys. Both dildos and plugs come in vibrating varieties, and other vibrating anal probes are long and thin. These are a great way to stimulate the prostate!

Choosing a Harness

A harness is just about any contraption that allows a dildo to be attached to a person. While most folks will conjur images of a "strap-on" (that is, pelvic) harnesses when asked, there are many more places than that where a dildo can be placed. Harnesses come in many varieties and materials, many of which need some extra attention.

  • Pelvic Harnesses
    Also called "strap-on harnesses," these bad girls are the ones that are the most common. They hold a dildo right at the mons pubis- the pubic bone that's right above your clit- so that you can control the movement with your hips. A pelvic harness can be found in a wide variety of materials, but most are nylon, leather, pleather, or rubber. They come in one-strap and two-strap varieties. As a rule the one-strap ones fit like a g-string, between the butt cheeks. If you're not a fan of thong underwear and are going to wear the harness, or are a fan of the jock strap look, the two-strap is what you're looking for. They frame the ass in a way that a lot of folks don't appreciate (we at Wild Hearts think it can be just as hot as the one-strap look), but give superior control for beginners and those into really rough sex.
  • Thigh Harnesses
    These hold a dildo on the thigh (bet you didn't see that one coming). While I've heard some folks say these seem a little strange to them, let me ask you when the last time was that you were lying with a lovely lady, your legs alternating like a zipper? I'll bet it was pretty recently. A thigh harness holds your dildo right there, giving you a more comfortable and more easily controlled topping experience. These are particularly useful for those of us with bad backs, as there's a lot less stress on the lower back when your leg is the controlling body part. They're also great for sex in a chair, provided there aren't armrests at that moment or both partners are facing the same way. Thigh harnesses also open up a world of I-didn't-think-of-that positions. Last but certainly not least, a pair of thigh harnesses makes for the best thigh-grinding experience we've ever imagined.
  • Chest Harnesses
    This harness is a great way to taunt a lover, or give her a wonderful show. It works particularly well if she's strapped down to the bed, with something under her head so she can't help but get the full view. Turn around and lean down to give her a view of all of you as you go down on her. While a chest harness can have limited uses in terms of positioning, those positions can quickly become a favorite.
  • Wrist/Hand Harnesses
    This is a great harness for folks who can't grip a dildo, although the rest of us can enjoy it just as much. It looks just like the wrist braces you can buy at a pharmacy with a hole cut in it for your favorite dildo. Whether for personal time or to better manipulate a dildo for your lover, these are great. A kink-positive use is to restrain someone's wrist against a surface and then ride her hand- she'll have a lot of feeling from her fingertips but no way to access anything you don't want her to.
  • Chin Harnesses
    A particularly kinky setup, chin harnesses haven't got a big following outside of specific circles. The Lickity Split is a particularly wonderful one as it holds the dildo low enough on the chin for your tongue and mouth to still access a clitoris or the anus. This harness, too, seems to most tickle the fancy of those who are kinky, but we think it's fun regardless. For less stress to the neck of someone wearing a chin harness, if she's lying on her back, put a rolled up towel or small pillow underneath her neck. This harness is also great if you have hand or wrist troubles because it lets you do a lot at once, giving your partner a lot of amazing sensations simultaneously.
  • Other Harnesses
    In this section I'm going to describe the Night Rider instead of a wide variety of harnesses, because that one can do just about anything. You see, the Night Rider looks a bit like a thigh harness (and can be used as one), but comes with really long straps. These straps are long so that it can be tightened around damn near anything. The packaging suggests putting a dildo on a chair, which we thought was a fun-for-one exercise or a nice/mean addition to a show for a lover. It can also be strapped to a cushion or set of cushions, dungeon equipment, fitness equipment (a new use for that weights bench sitting in your guest room!), and even Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear. It can also attach around any part of a body- which is particularly useful for folks who have limited use of their hands or no hands, for a great addition to ponyplay, or a new way to worship your lover's feet. The possibilities with a simple, long-strapped harness like the Night Rider are nearly endless.

What Are My Toys Made Of?

The Material: Silicone

What it feels like: Less give than jelly rubber, more flexibility than any other non-porous material. Silicone has the perfect density for hands-free penetration. It warms to body temperature and transmits vibration beautifully.
What it costs: Silicone toys are a little more of an investment, but their high quality and long life makes them well worth it.
Cleaning and Upkeep: Do Not use silicone lubricant with silicone toys, because it will break down the material. Use a condom if you want to use silicone lubricant. This non-porous material can be sanitized by boiling in water for up to three minutes, running through the dishwasher, or washing with warm water and anti-bacterial soap. Condoms make for even easier cleanup. We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys during a session.
Chemical Sensitivity: 100% silicone toys are extremely unlikely to cause a reaction in those with chemical sensitivity. We especially recommend these silicone dildos.

The Material: VixSkin Silicone, by Vixen

What it feels like: VixSkin toys are designed with an inner core of more solid silicone, while the exterior of the toy is softer silicone with plenty of give. Best of all, these very realistic dildos feel soft and silky like skin.
What it costs: These handmade toys are top-of-the-line, so they're an investment, but their high quality and long life makes them well worth it.
Cleaning and Upkeep: Do Not use silicone lubricant with silicone toys, because it will break down the material. Use a condom if you want to use silicone lubricant. This non-porous material can be sanitized by boiling in water for up to three minutes, running through the dishwasher, or washing with warm water and anti-bacterial soap. Powder with cornstarch (not talc!) to maintain silky skin-like feel. Condoms make for even easier cleanup. We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys.
Chemical Sensitivity: These 100% silicone toys are extremely unlikely to cause a reaction in those with chemical sensitivity.

The Material: Jelly Rubber and Vinyl

What it feels like: Soft and flexible. Most jelly rubber toys have a hard plastic core or flexible metal rod inside of them. As long as you don't try to bend them in half, the core will stay inside.
What it costs: Less expensive than non-porous material, but also won't last as long. Use condoms, clean well and store safely to extend the life of the toy.
Cleaning and Upkeep: This porous material cannot be sanitized. Use condoms to prevent the spread of bacteria and make cleanup easier. Clean with anti-bacterial soap and warm water, and store in a cool dry area. We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys.
Chemical Sensitivity: Jelly rubber toys contain chemical softeners (phthalates) which have been linked to health risks. They are no longer used in children's toys, but no studies have been conducted on the risks of phthalates when introduced vaginally or anally. We recommend using condoms to reduce the amount of contact between you and the toy. Jelly rubber toys may also contain latex.

The Material: Cyberskin

What it feels like: Soft and flexible like jelly rubber, but with a soft velvety surface that feels like skin.
What it costs: Less expensive than non-porous material, but also won't last as long. Use condoms, clean well and store safely to extend the life of the toy.
Cleaning and Upkeep: This porous material cannot be sanitized. Use condoms to prevent the spread of bacteria and make cleanup easier. Clean with anti-bacterial soap and warm water, and store in a cool dry area. Powder with cornstarch (not talc!) to maintain silky skin-like feel. We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys.
Chemical Sensitivity: Cyberskin toys contain chemical softeners (phthalates) which have been linked to health risks. They are no longer used in children's toys, but no studies have been conducted on the risks of phthalates when introduced vaginally or anally. We recommend using condoms to reduce the amount of contact between you and the toy. Cyberskin toys may also contain latex.

The Material: Hard Plastic

What it feels like: Well... hard. No give and no flexibility, but hard plastic toys transmit vibration quite well.
What it costs: Hard plastic toys tend to be the least expensive.
Cleaning and Upkeep: This non-porous material can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial soap to disinfect. Don't try to boil hard plastic toys &mdash they'll melt! We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys during a session.
Chemical Sensitivity: Hard plastic toys are unlikely to cause a reaction in those with chemical sensitivity.

The Material: Pyrex glass

What it feels like: No give or flexibility, but Pyrex glass warms to body temperature. A little bit of lube makes these toys very slippery, and many women love their weight. They are shatter-resistant. Plus they're so pretty, they make great paperweights!
What it costs: These beautiful toys are an investment, but well worth it if you want a long-lasting toy that can be sanitized.
Cleaning and Upkeep: This non-porous material can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial soap, boiled, or run through the dishwasher to disinfect. We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys during a session.
Chemical Sensitivity: Glass toys are unlikely to cause a reaction in those with chemical sensitivity.

The Material: Metal

What it feels like: No give or flexibility, but metal warms to body temperature. A little bit of lube makes these toys very slippery, and many women love their weight.
What it costs: Depends on the metal, but generally speaking these are mid-range toys.
Cleaning and Upkeep: This non-porous material can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial soap or run through the dishwasher to disinfect. We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys during a session.
Chemical Sensitivity: Always double-check the metal a toy is made out of if you have sensitivities to some metals. Generally, metal toys are unlikely to cause a reaction in those with chemical sensitivity.

The Material: Acrylic

What it feels like: No give or flexibility, but a little lube makes them very slippery. These lightweight toys are a great option when holding a heavier toy for any length of time would be too tiring.
What it Costs: Generally mid-range
Cleaning and Upkeep: This non-porous material can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial soap to disinfect. Do not boil acrylic toys, they will melt! We strongly recommend using condoms when sharing toys during a session.
Chemical Sensitivity: Generally, acrylic toys are unlikely to cause a reaction in those with chemical sensitivity.

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