Choosing a Harness

A harness is just about any contraption that allows a dildo to be attached to a person. While most folks will conjur images of a "strap-on" (that is, pelvic) harnesses when asked, there are many more places than that where a dildo can be placed. Harnesses come in many varieties and materials, many of which need some extra attention.

• Pelvic Harnesses
  Also called "strap-on harnesses," these bad girls are the ones that are the most common. They hold a dildo right at the mons pubis- the pubic bone that's right above your clit- so that you can control the movement with your hips. A pelvic harness can be found in a wide variety of materials, but most are nylon, leather, pleather, or rubber. They come in one-strap and two-strap varieties. As a rule the one-strap ones fit like a g-string, between the butt cheeks. If you're not a fan of thong underwear and are going to wear the harness, or are a fan of the jock strap look, the two-strap is what you're looking for. They frame the ass in a way that a lot of folks don't appreciate (we at Wild Hearts think it can be just as hot as the one-strap look), but give superior control for beginners and those into really rough sex.
• Thigh Harnesses
  These hold a dildo on the thigh (bet you didn't see that one coming). While I've heard some folks say these seem a little strange to them, let me ask you when the last time was that you were lying with a lovely lady, your legs alternating like a zipper? I'll bet it was pretty recently. A thigh harness holds your dildo right there, giving you a more comfortable and more easily controlled topping experience. These are particularly useful for those of us with bad backs, as there's a lot less stress on the lower back when your leg is the controlling body part. They're also great for sex in a chair, provided there aren't armrests at that moment or both partners are facing the same way. Thigh harnesses also open up a world of I-didn't-think-of-that positions. Last but certainly not least, a pair of thigh harnesses makes for the best thigh-grinding experience we've ever imagined.
• Chest Harnesses
  This harness is a great way to taunt a lover, or give her a wonderful show. It works particularly well if she's strapped down to the bed, with something under her head so she can't help but get the full view. Turn around and lean down to give her a view of all of you as you go down on her. While a chest harness can have limited uses in terms of positioning, those positions can quickly become a favorite.
• Wrist/Hand Harnesses
  This is a great harness for folks who can't grip a dildo, although the rest of us can enjoy it just as much. It looks just like the wrist braces you can buy at a pharmacy with a hole cut in it for your favorite dildo. Whether for personal time or to better manipulate a dildo for your lover, these are great. A kink-positive use is to restrain someone's wrist against a surface and then ride her hand- she'll have a lot of feeling from her fingertips but no way to access anything you don't want her to.
• Chin Harnesses
  A particularly kinky setup, chin harnesses haven't got a big following outside of specific circles. The Lickity Split is a particularly wonderful one as it holds the dildo low enough on the chin for your tongue and mouth to still access a clitoris or the anus. This harness, too, seems to most tickle the fancy of those who are kinky, but we think it's fun regardless. For less stress to the neck of someone wearing a chin harness, if she's lying on her back, put a rolled up towel or small pillow underneath her neck. This harness is also great if you have hand or wrist troubles because it lets you do a lot at once, giving your partner a lot of amazing sensations simultaneously.
• Other Harnesses
  In this section I'm going to describe the Night Rider instead of a wide variety of harnesses, because that one can do just about anything. You see, the Night Rider looks a bit like a thigh harness (and can be used as one), but comes with really long straps. These straps are long so that it can be tightened around damn near anything. The packaging suggests putting a dildo on a chair, which we thought was a fun-for-one exercise or a nice/mean addition to a show for a lover. It can also be strapped to a cushion or set of cushions, dungeon equipment, fitness equipment (a new use for that weights bench sitting in your guest room!), and even Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear. It can also attach around any part of a body- which is particularly useful for folks who have limited use of their hands or no hands, for a great addition to ponyplay, or a new way to worship your lover's feet. The possibilities with a simple, long-strapped harness like the Night Rider are nearly endless.